You Matter

By Donna Marie Leonard Jan. 2, 2023

After I became a mom, it seems like little by little I began to stop doing the things that made me feel good about myself. It’s like the time we have in a day is never enough. It’s not even just enough to get by. I don’t know about you, but everything quickly became rush rush for me. Rushing in the morning to get dressed and ready for work, rushing after work to pick up my little, rushing home to make dinner, rushing to do a few house chores, take care of the little one, and then bed.

So let’s just say, nail and hair appointments, massages those all became a thing of the past. But I am here to say that this year, I am here to claim it all back and then some. It’s a lot being a parent. And if you’re anything like I am, you want the absolute best for your child. But it is all at the expense of ourselves. I’m not complaining about giving my child the world, because she deserves it. However, it takes a toll on you. It’s like my economic professor taught us, opportunity cost. You can’t have it all. Well, maybe. But for majority of us, the energy you put into one thing, is going to cost losing time with whatever else you would like to do. Yet, there is hope. You just have to squeeze it in your time.

And this is not to say that only parents get caught up and never have downtime. This applies to just about anybody who is trying to build their best life.

This is all to say two words. Self. Care. Yes, self-care. You forgot about it, too. I know I have for a long time. I have been daydreaming of a pedicure for two months now. It’s never enough time. We have to know how to slow down and take care of ourselves.

In 2023, I am ensuring self-care is a part of my weekly plans. I will fit her in my schedule some magical way. We need it. We’re only human. And all this rushing and going about each day draining ourselves until our heads hit the pillow is not ok. A part of self-care is time management. Time is truly a gift, and it matters what we do with each second of our day.

I dare you this year, each week, all 52 of them to find time for yourself. Maybe spend 10 extra minutes doing a facial mask, or go for a mani and pedi, or my favorite sit alone at the local coffee shop and read or write for 20-30 minutes. Do whatever it is that makes you happy, that you see fit as quality “me time” just to fuel yourself back up. You are totally worth it. I know for one of my friends, it doesn’t even have to be as long as the ones I listed above. One of my friends finds so much joy in having an ice cold can of coca cola. It’s that simple. She refuses to have them everyday, but there are moments she has that, and she claims she’s brand new.

Share with me in the comments Jewels, how you are going to spend time with you this year. I’ll go first, tonight I am going to spend ten minutes reading a book before bed.

Below is a list of ideas for self-care:

Take Care!

References

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Written By Donna Marie Leonard

Donna Marie Leonard has written blogs for thecurvychateau.com since 2013. She is the published author of children’s book That’s Me. Additionally, Donna Marie is a magazine columnist and freelance writer. She is a script writer, actor, and producer in the Houston film community, as well.

Build Yourself This 2019


“I am the sparkle in the gold.
I AM AMAZING!”
Donna Marie

The newness it brings, along with cheerfulness we sing, it’s a delightful thing. That’s the optimism that comes with the New Year. We excitedly bring it in, with hopes of achieving what last year did not win. But, this is not the time for any more excuses. This is the time for us all to embrace the hope the New Year has given us. 

For this reason, you have to accept the challenge that has been granted you, life. And you were only given one. So this year marks the start of completing those New Year resolutions. While failed attempts may spring about, you cannot give up. This is your year to achieve the unbelievable. Will it require hard work, and take you out of your comfort zone? Yes, but it will be worth it. Those nights you go down with the moon and wake with the rising sun, will all be for the good of accomplishing the life you have always wanted.  

This 2019, embark on creating the life you have seen yourself having. No more dreaming, time for your dreams to come to life. Walk in the path you have always known was meant for you. This is your year. There isn’t a more prominent time than now, to be in love with yourself enough that you give your dreams a chance to come alive.

There is nothing like waking up knowing that you are going to strive toward your greatness that day. Because too often, we drag ourselves out of bed to fulfill the dreams of someone else. But, it never has to be that way again.

You have the power within you to make greatness occur in your life. There are two simple steps to make this happen: believe in yourself and getting started. Once, you believe that you can possibly do it, you’re ready to take the first step. And then, you are on your way!

Last year, I learned just what it meant to step out of my own way and work towards my goals. And that was just one tiny step towards the big picture I envision of myself.

Jewels, if you do not have any goals this year other than surviving, I encourage you to build on the gift you have and elevate yourself. You deserve it.

Happy New Year, Jewels! Be You!

Getting 2013 Started

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I don’t know about you, but I am more than ready to get started with my new year resolutions. The new year has begun and I have been going to the gym, to be honest just two days, but it’s a start. Tomorrow is my official day to start my new year resolutions. Thinking about working out more is making me cringe. I have no idea how those that go every day do it. Working out is not fun to me. This year there are so many things that I want to accomplish, such as mastering my time. Some guys find it hard to comprehend why it takes some women two hours to get ready. I used to feel like two hours was not bad; however, I am starting to think that two hours is quite a lot of time, and there are other things I can do with part of that two hours. So ladies, if you are one of those ladies, like myself, who take FOREVER to get ready and want more time in your day to do other things, consider chopping the amount of time it takes you to get ready in the morning to do other things.

I am not a morning person, yet I know that if I got up maybe an hour and a half earlier I can get some things done that I really want to, but probably wouldn’t get done otherwise in my day, done in the  morning. For instance, my new year resolution to go to the gym five days a week, that could be done easily by going to the gym for an hour every morning. Think of it as doing it early and getting it out of your day. That would be one thing on your list accomplished.

That being said, I have desired that I want to master the use of time I have in a day. Another resolution I have, is the obvious one to be healthier. As much as I hate going to the gym it is something that has to be done, as well as eating healthier; otherwise, I’ll have poor health, and that is no good. One of the most important ones on my list is reminding myself to always be myself and not someone else. Being who you are will never be overrated. Learning to accept who you are is the best thing you can do for yourself; and I also will be working toward being a better me in all the aspects of my life: daughter, sister, friend,etc.. Of course, one other thing on my list is to shop more, you can NEVER shop enough! These are my new year resolutions and I would love to hear what yours are! Leave comments and share with me what your resolutions are and as I give updates as to how mine are coming along I would love to hear how yours are coming along too!

I look forward to hearing what your new year resolutions are and hearing about you accomplishing them as the year goes on. I will respond to any comments you post. Have a great year Jewels!

2013 is Here

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It is 2013, Happy New Year! I’m excited about the New Year, because I’m going to be working on myself to improve things about myself. There are many New Year resolutions out there; however, making changes to your inner self tends not to be on the list. Of course one of my New Year resolutions is changing my outer appearance for health reasons, which will not only result in a leaner me but a healthier me. Yet, my biggest resolution is to be a better me. Whatever your New Year resolutions may be I hope you stick to them, and if you fall off track get back on and try again with more effort and will power. Have a blessed year full of adventure and don’t be afraid to cross into new boundaries and pursue your dreams!

Happy New Year Jewels!