You Matter

By Donna Marie Leonard Jan. 2, 2023

After I became a mom, it seems like little by little I began to stop doing the things that made me feel good about myself. It’s like the time we have in a day is never enough. It’s not even just enough to get by. I don’t know about you, but everything quickly became rush rush for me. Rushing in the morning to get dressed and ready for work, rushing after work to pick up my little, rushing home to make dinner, rushing to do a few house chores, take care of the little one, and then bed.

So let’s just say, nail and hair appointments, massages those all became a thing of the past. But I am here to say that this year, I am here to claim it all back and then some. It’s a lot being a parent. And if you’re anything like I am, you want the absolute best for your child. But it is all at the expense of ourselves. I’m not complaining about giving my child the world, because she deserves it. However, it takes a toll on you. It’s like my economic professor taught us, opportunity cost. You can’t have it all. Well, maybe. But for majority of us, the energy you put into one thing, is going to cost losing time with whatever else you would like to do. Yet, there is hope. You just have to squeeze it in your time.

And this is not to say that only parents get caught up and never have downtime. This applies to just about anybody who is trying to build their best life.

This is all to say two words. Self. Care. Yes, self-care. You forgot about it, too. I know I have for a long time. I have been daydreaming of a pedicure for two months now. It’s never enough time. We have to know how to slow down and take care of ourselves.

In 2023, I am ensuring self-care is a part of my weekly plans. I will fit her in my schedule some magical way. We need it. We’re only human. And all this rushing and going about each day draining ourselves until our heads hit the pillow is not ok. A part of self-care is time management. Time is truly a gift, and it matters what we do with each second of our day.

I dare you this year, each week, all 52 of them to find time for yourself. Maybe spend 10 extra minutes doing a facial mask, or go for a mani and pedi, or my favorite sit alone at the local coffee shop and read or write for 20-30 minutes. Do whatever it is that makes you happy, that you see fit as quality “me time” just to fuel yourself back up. You are totally worth it. I know for one of my friends, it doesn’t even have to be as long as the ones I listed above. One of my friends finds so much joy in having an ice cold can of coca cola. It’s that simple. She refuses to have them everyday, but there are moments she has that, and she claims she’s brand new.

Share with me in the comments Jewels, how you are going to spend time with you this year. I’ll go first, tonight I am going to spend ten minutes reading a book before bed.

Below is a list of ideas for self-care:

Take Care!

References

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Written By Donna Marie Leonard

Donna Marie Leonard has written blogs for thecurvychateau.com since 2013. She is the published author of children’s book That’s Me. Additionally, Donna Marie is a magazine columnist and freelance writer. She is a script writer, actor, and producer in the Houston film community, as well.

No Longer Holding Yourself Back

By Donna Marie Leonard Jan. 2, 2023

Purpose has been the theme for years. Year after year, we hear people talk about the key to life is knowing your purpose. This is not a lie. In fact, it is far from it. However, what happens when you know your purpose, but you lack a sense of fulfillment? Well, that’s where executing comes in.

To execute is everything. The only thing stopping any of us from reaching our goals and living out our dreams is executing them. The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines execute as “To carry out fully: put completely into effect” and my favorite “…to perform what is required to give validity to.” Now, this raises volume to exactly what many individuals are lacking. They fail to “perform” that which is “required” to bring their dreams, their goals to pass. At the end of the day, you must put in the work. Without the effort, there is no effect.

And if mediocrity has taught us anything, it is that doing the bare minimum will continue to give you bare minimum results. The time has arrived to get out our comfort zones and execute our missions. Focusing on how you are going to execute those big, beautiful, brave ideas you have. You don’t have them by coincidence. Stop letting fear stop you. No more procrastination. No more excuses. In fact, I challenge you to write out every excuse you have that is limiting you to executing your goals, and little by little remove those excuses from your daily habits and begin to hone in on executing your dreams.

These past couple of years, we have watched so many people on social media fulfill their dreams. These are people just like you and I. The only difference is they decided to stop dreaming and start executing. Really think about it, what is truly holding any of us back from being just like them?

If you have new year resolutions, write execute next to them. Let that be your reminder to daily work towards fulfilling your goals. Like Mama used to say, “There’s nothing you can’t do.” And that’s the truth. Again, challenge yourself to write down those things that are holding you back from executing your goals, and begin to monitor yourself to ensure you aren’t falling back into those habits.

You got this! Remember, there’s nothing you can’t do. You are counting on YOU!

Happy New Year, Jewels!

I’m working on not disappointing myself this year, how about you? Let me know in the comments.

References

Merriam-Webster. (n.d.). Execute definition & meaning. Merriam-Webster. Retrieved January 2, 2023, from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/execute

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Written By Donna Marie Leonard

Donna Marie Leonard has written blogs for thecurvychateau.com since 2013. She is the published author of children’s book That’s Me. Additionally, Donna Marie is a magazine columnist and freelance writer. She is a script writer, actor, and producer in the Houston film community, as well.